Stereotyping

We may not even be aware that some of our negative self-talk is based on a perceived framing of us -> because of the group/s we belong to.

If you think, act or look different from others around you, the perceptions that define your identity may be based on a system that is designed to view you in a particular way. When this particular way becomes normalised it is known as systemic. Where this is the case, having extra support networks and allies becomes even more important.

Often when we examine the words that we are using to ourselves, they come from somewhere…. From someone…

Sometimes these words serve us in some way, and sometimes they do not. When they do not, what we may need to do is to thank them (in our thoughts), and choose to let those words go. This can help create the space in our heads to have more positive and constructive messages enter.

Recognising that self-talk is not actually our selves talking can be very empowering for many people.

Perspective Activity: “Whose words are those?”

1. What are some of the stereotypes that I’ve heard about me, my friendship group, my community, my family, my country?
2. Who is responsible for saying these things?
3. How important is that person in my daily life? What could I do to manage or influence that person’s perceptions of me?
4. Can I just let these words go? If not, how can I reduce the negative impact they have for me?